Parenting can often feel like an unending relay race, with the baton being passed from one task to the next. So it’s to really no one’s surprise that many of us find ourselves at the bottom of our to-do list. But here’s the thing – if you’re not looking after yourself, how can you give your best to your kids? When everything is screaming for your attention, you need to remind yourself that self-care isn’t selfish. It’s essential, even when you’re running on fumes.
Why is it So Important?
You’re used to putting your children first. But when did you last stop to consider your own needs? You can’t be a superhero to your little ones if you’re running on empty. Self-care isn’t about indulgence, it’s about survival. You need energy, patience, and mental clarity to handle the chaos of daily life. Think of self-care as your recharge button; without it, you’ll be dead in the water by midday.
It’s easy to think you’re too busy for self-care. But if you burn out, who’s going to care for your family? Taking care of your mental health means being a better, more present parent.
No!
Let’s face it; you can’t do it all. As much as you’d like to be super-parent, you have to admit that some things will simply need to wait. Setting boundaries is about protecting your time and mental health, and it’s more than OK to say no. Whether it’s a family gathering you really don’t have the energy for or an extra activity your child wants to join, don’t be afraid to turn things down.
Boundaries aren’t just about that, though; they’re about creating space for the things that matter. When you say no to one thing, you’re saying yes to your own well-being. And that might mean taking an hour off to have a bubble bath, whisking yourself a lovely cup of matcha tea, or simply sitting in silence with a book. You’ll feel less frazzled and, honestly, everyone will be better off.
Integrating Mindfulness & Exercise
If you’re rolling your eyes at the mention of mindfulness, I get it. It sounds like something that requires hours of sitting still, staring into space, or, heaven forbid, a silent retreat. But mindfulness can be simple and done in small moments throughout the day. It’s about being present and taking a mental break from the whirlwind around you.
You could try focusing on your breath while you’re in the middle of doing the washing up or taking a minute of quiet while your child naps. It also isn’t about perfection; it’s about being fully in the moment, even if that moment is spent wiping sticky fingerprints off your kitchen table.
Finding time to work out can equally seem impossible. Who has the time to go to the gym when you’re managing a thousand things at once? The truth is, you don’t need hours for a full-on workout. Even small bursts of movement throughout the day can have a big impact on your mood and energy levels.
Try taking a brisk walk with the pram, or get your kids involved in a fun activity like dancing around the living room. It doesn’t have to be complicated! Just getting your body moving, even for 15 minutes, will release endorphins and give you a much-needed mental break.
Sleep
Ah, sleep – the elusive treasure. Lack of rest isn’t just frustrating; it can leave you feeling emotionally drained and less patient with your children. If you’ve got little ones waking you up at odd hours, prioritising sleep might seem impossible, but there are steps you can take to improve your sleep quality.
Try to create a bedtime routine that allows you to wind down, even if it’s just for 30 minutes before bed. Avoid screens, have a warm drink (perhaps some chamomile?), and relax your mind. You’ll feel better prepared to tackle the day ahead and be more present for your children when you’re well-rested.
Self-care doesn’t have to be complicated, but it does require effort. You don’t need hours of free time or a luxury spa day (although that would be nice). A few simple steps can already make a huge difference. You’ll feel less stressed, more energised, and, ultimately, be a better parent. Because you matter too.
