Being A Stay-At-Home Mom Is Harder Than Working: Here’s Why

As a stay-at-home mom, many people assume that my day is full of relaxing activities, like lounging on the couch watching TV or taking long naps while the kids play quietly. However, the reality couldn’t be further from the truth. Being a stay-at-home mom is harder than working a traditional 9-to-5 job in many ways.

Firstly, as a stay-at-home mom, I’m on-call 24/7. There’s no clocking in or out, no weekends off, and no paid time off. My job is to be a caregiver, teacher, maid, and chef all wrapped in one. There’s no downtime or time to relax. Even when the kids are napping, I’m cleaning the house, doing laundry, or preparing meals for later. The constant demands of being a stay-at-home mom can be physically and emotionally exhausting.

Secondly, being a stay-at-home mom can be a lonely job. There’s no watercooler talk or colleagues to socialise with throughout the day. Many days, the only adult interaction I have is with the cashier at the grocery store. It can be isolating and frustrating, especially when I need to vent or seek advice about parenting challenges.

Overall, being a stay-at-home mom is a rewarding but challenging job. It requires a strong work ethic, time management skills, and endless patience. While many people might assume that staying at home all day is easy, the reality is that being a stay-at-home mom is harder than working a traditional job in many ways.

Untitled design(113)The Toll on Mental Health

One of the most significant tolls being a stay-at-home mom takes on a woman’s mental health. Managing a household and caring for children leaves little time for self-care, which can lead to exhaustion, stress, and anxiety.

Women who choose to stay home with their kids also face the stigma of not having a “real job.” This can lead to feelings of inadequacy and a lack of self-worth, impacting their mental health even further.

Additionally, being isolated from adults for long periods can lead to loneliness and depression. Stay-at-home moms often find themselves living in a bubble, cut off from the outside world and relying solely on their spouse and children for social interaction. This limited social engagement can take a toll on mental health and reduce overall life satisfaction.

Surprisingly, the stress levels of stay-at-home moms are equivalent to those of working moms, according to a study by the American Psychological Association. Stay-at-home moms may not face the stress of work deadlines or unpaid overtime, but the constant demands of motherhood can be just as difficult to manage.

It’s crucial to acknowledge the impact stay-at-home motherhood can have on mental health and take active measures to prevent or treat related issues. Scheduling regular breaks, prioritising self-care, and seeking support groups can all help women find a balance that works for them.

Being a stay-at-home mom is a demanding and often thankless job that comes with its unique set of emotional challenges. It’s vital to recognize these difficulties and provide resources and support to mothers who choose this path. It’s time we start acknowledging the reality that being a stay-at-home mom is harder than working – not just physically, but mentally as well.

Untitled design(114)Juggling Responsibilities

As a stay-at-home mom, I face a unique set of challenges every day that demands a lot of juggling responsibilities. I have many roles to play which can include being a caregiver, housekeeper, cook, chauffeur, and teacher all at once. It is without a doubt that being a stay-at-home mom is harder than working outside the home.

Here are some reasons why the juggling responsibilities as a stay-at-home mom are much more challenging than working outside the home:

  • The Long Working Hours: Being a stay-at-home mom requires constant effort and engagement, often from early morning to late at night. I have to wake up early to get the kids ready for school, then spend a significant portion of the day taking care of the house and running errands. Once the kids are back from school, there are homework, dinner, baths, and bedtime routines to take care of. All of these take a lot of time and energy, without any breaks or time off.
  • Lack of Support: I don’t have colleagues or supervisors to support or assist me in my day-to-day tasks. Even though my husband is a constant support, he works outside the home, and I can’t call him every time I need help. Furthermore, I don’t receive monetary compensation, health benefits, or vacation time like a typical job outside the home.
  • The Mental Load: The mental workload involved in parenting is enormous, especially for a stay-at-home mom. Parents are responsible for ensuring the physical, emotional, and mental wellbeing of their children. Therefore, we must constantly be planning ahead, anticipating problems, and making sure everyone is taken care of. This can lead to burnout and anxiety, and can be especially challenging to manage on limited sleep.

In conclusion, although being a stay-at-home mom can be incredibly rewarding, it is also challenging. Juggling responsibilities while facing the long working hours, lack of support, and mental load can take a significant toll on one’s health and wellbeing. Nevertheless, those who choose to stay at home with their children are heroes who deserve respect for their efforts.

Untitled design(115)The Constant Need to Be “On”

As a stay-at-home mom, the job never ends. There is no clocking out at the end of the day or weekend breaks. The responsibility of caring for the children and running the household is a 24/7 job. This can be challenging as it requires being “on” at all times, ready to handle anything that comes up.

At work, there is a clear separation between home life and work life, but as a stay-at-home mom, work life is home life. Even when the kids are sleeping, the responsibility of running the household still exists. Grocery shopping, meal planning, and cleaning must be done during the odd hours of the day, which can sometimes mean sacrificing personal time or sleep.

Furthermore, the need to be constantly focused and attentive can be exhausting. Children require constant attention and supervision, especially when they are young. It is imperative for their safety and well-being that a stay-at-home mom is always alert and aware of her surroundings, which can be tiring both mentally and physically.

In a study conducted by Welch’s, one in four stay-at-home moms reported that their job was more stressful than their previous jobs. Another study by found that if a stay-at-home mom were to receive pay for the work that she does, it would equate to an annual salary of over $160,000.

It’s important to acknowledge the hard work and dedication that stay-at-home moms put into their jobs. The constant need to be “on” requires a level of endurance that is often overlooked.

Brantley Jackson, dad and writer at 'Not in the Kitchen Anymore' is well-known in the parenting world. He writes about his experiences of raising children and provides advice to other fathers. His articles are widely praised for being real and relatable. As well as being an author, he is a full-time dad and loves spending time with his family. His devotion to his kids and love of writing drives him to motivate others.